Unfriendly Environment

[jqbalayan]

My best friend is working in a financing company as a junior marketing assistant for six months now. She is very hardworking. In fact she is so hard working that she will work even without an overtime pay just to finish the job. Because of these, she won the favor of her employers. Now it created trouble when jealousy from her co-workers steps in and even from her supervisors. She was given minimal jobs and gossips about her personal life comes in. All seems to be rough for her this past few days that she cried everytime I see her. She was afraid that she will loose her job if she will fight back but if she quits, it would take a few months before she could land another good paying job.

What should I advise her? Should I tell her to quit? Should I tell her to fight even if it might mean loosing her job? So tell me what should I do.

[Ricky]

Originally Posted by jqbalayan

My best friend is working in a financing company as a junior marketing assistant for six months now. She is very hardworking. In fact she is so hard working that she will work even without an overtime pay just to finish the job. Because of these, she won the favor of her employers. Now it created trouble when jealousy from her co-workers steps in and even from her supervisors. She was given minimal jobs and gossips about her personal life comes in. All seems to be rough for her this past few days that she cried everytime I see her. She was afraid that she will loose her job if she will fight back but if she quits, it would take a few months before she could land another good paying job.

What should I advise her? Should I tell her to quit? Should I tell her to fight even if it might mean loosing her job? So tell me what should I do.

Definetly tell her not to quite, just to hang in their. We have a few jealouse individuals like this for the company I work for. Even myself, I work over. Not to impress the bosses, but to finish my job. Everyone else can care less if the job gets finished this month. I make sure it's finished by the end of the day. They're all the time calling me a *****Beep******, but I just ignore them. If the company ever downsizes and what not, I'll be the one with the job while they are un employed!

[jqbalayan]

Thanks for that advise. But you mean to say, she should stay there and fight? Because the worst thing happen today when her co-worker started saying bad things about her when her boyfriend calls. Because of that it started out a fight between her and her boyfriend. He couldn't bear the thought that she have another man in her life. I don't know what to tell her. Could you please advise me more on this.

[jqbalayan]

I agree with you. I will tell her what you will tell me. You know, she's so sensitive right now regarding this issue. Thanks for your advise, I will keep that in mind.

[tay6563]

Has she spoke to her employer's about any of this? I know a lot of people think that this would only make matters worse but sometimes it dosn't. We owned a business for ten years with 15 employee's. I always made them feel like they could come to me with anything. I know it depends on the situation though.

[joffre]

I don't think that she should quit her job. She should fight for what is right. I mean she must have been good at her job because she has her employer's favor. She shouldn't mind about her co-employee's cause I bet you that they are just jealous because for them she's a competition.

[encoder]

That is really a very stressful situation. Every workplace has its own problems. It always on the persons involve in the problem how to solve it.

About her job in her office, its good to go on and fight it. But you will never know until you got enough of the problem. The thing is, you are working in order to have a living. Working in a good-paying company is just part of living your life. If you think you are being maltreated despite your good works, try to ask yourself if your salary is still larger than your own self-respect.

But if you are a fighter and you have overcome those abuses, you will really be successful in any problems that will come. But expect that problems will never end as long as you are breathing.

About the boyfriend, I guess its a test of trust to each other. If the boyfriend believes what the officemate is telling rather than what his girlfriend is saying, then for me that would be very unfair. If you love someone, you will first ask his/her side or opinion on what others have told you. You will not immediately believe what others have said until you have heard the story of your beloved.