Tutorials NLPFor example, a person stuck in the first perceptual position becomes an egoist. He is always concerned about himself and has little or no regard for anyone else’s opinion.
A person taking the second perceptual position becomes too dependent on other’s viewpoints. He assumes the role of a perpetual caretaker or a rescuer. He is always influenced by other people’s opinions, and is unable to take a decision on his own. The second position is therefore a codependency position. We often are stuck in this position when we constantly try to please others instead of doing things the way we want.
A person remaining in the third position for too long will become cold and detached. He will not feel anything and will be known as cold hearted. The third perceptual position dwellers usually become the loners or strangers of the world. Some of them become great philosophers or thinkers as they start looking at everything more objectively, as per Neuro-linguistic training.
Most people however keep moving from one position to the other, either consciously or unconsciously. It helps us to obtain and act with wisdom and respond in an appropriate manner. If you keep moving across all the perceptual positions, you can become a rich and understanding person, and you can control your actions and your conversations more effectively as per Neuro-linguistic courses.
However, sometimes we might not be able to perceive things from the perceptual positions due to out-of-alignment between each position. That is, we might have mixed perceptions, and different perceptual positions conflicting with each other. By aligning perceptual positions in our system, we can achieve personal power and inner congruence. We can resolve any internal conflicts and achieve internal perceptual position alignment as per Neuro-linguistic courses.
We can use the triple description pattern when there is an incomplete perspective or awareness of a given situation.
The first step is to identify the target problem, and describe where you feel stuck in the given situation. This is where you need to achieve congruence and alignment.
The next step is to identify the visual, auditory and kinesthetic factors of each perceptual position. The visual element details how each part or person sees the situation or the problem. Here you will identify the visual difference as seen by each perceptual position. Once you identify the visual difference, try to seek the auditory variation. Find out what words or sounds are heard in each perceptual position. Note the tone of voice used by the first and second perceptual positions. Note which pronouns are used and identify any judgmental tone. Observe the conversation from the third perceptual position and make a note of the vocal variations. Finally monitor the kinesthetic aspect of the perceptual positions. Identify what types of emotions are experienced in each part of the body for all perceptual positions. Note the feelings in all the situations, and identify any neutral emotions.
According to Neuro-linguistic courses, the next step is to realign all perceptual positions in all the representation systems. Take the third perceptual position, and go through all the VAK elements. Communicate any information seen by the observer position to the first perceptual position. Move on to the audio element once the self and the other view the situation in the same manner. For the audio element, try to see if the self and observer can agree on the same pronouns being used and the same tone of voice. Kinesthetically, try to align the feelings of the self and the observer.
The next step is to concentrate on the self, and align all the VAK perceptual positions in terms of self. That is the self should be able to see, hear and feel from its own eyes, vocal chords or body parts. All the feelings should come from inside the self.
According to Neuro-linguistic courses, the next step is to repeat the alignment for the second perceptual position. Adjust the Neuro-linguistic Programming perceptions so that they align with the self. Try to move the location of the other person to that of self, so that self can see, hear and feel from the perspective of the other. Integrate all the feelings so that the self is more resourceful and flexible.
Once all these realignments steps are taken, check whether all the parts feel in congruence with each other. According to Neuro-linguistic courses, once all parts are in harmony, you can try to adopt new behaviors and feelings so that the self is more enriched and flexible.
By adopting the five perceptual positions, you can enhance your feeling and thinking potential. Your perspective will be enriched and you can gain more insight on problem situations. These Neuro-linguistic Programming techniques can be applied to mediation, conflict resolution, and personal flexibility and for influencing others.
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