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3. Communicative presuppositions
It is impossible for us to not communicate, even when we are not speaking. That is because major part of the communication is non-verbal and comes from our gestures, posture, and body language, breathing and facial expressions. These Neuro-linguistic indicators will give away our underlying thoughts, feelings and emotions unconsciously to others.
Since majority of our communication is non-verbal, it is more important how we say things using the non-verbal channels of body language, tone, volume, breathing, posture etc. rather than what we say using words.
According to Neuro-linguistic training, the mind interprets a communication using its internal map. Therefore, the listener can create a map that does not match the intention of the speaker. The true meaning of the communication can therefore be obtained via the response of the listener according to his internal map.
The frame decides the perception, meaning, behavior, emotion and values. Therefore, by controlling the frame you can control the response and the communication.
Feedback can be used to alter our behavior, and become excellent communicators and achievers.
A person who is flexible in his behavior and can adapt to the system has more choices for himself and can efficiently control and influence the system.
Usually we give up on people who exhibit resistance. However, this should be seen as a lack of rapport, and the Neuro-linguistic rapport building techniques should be applied. By matching or mirroring the internal world, the resistance will be replaced with cooperation and understanding.
4. Learning, choice, change presuppositions
Neuro-linguistic Programming understands that every person has an internal ability for enhancing their skills and learning new techniques. These resources might be hidden within the unconscious processes. By discovering and accessing the internal skills, every person can achieve success.
The human mind has the potential to learn an activity, skill, fear, emotion or feeling upon one time occurrence. The learning can be used for positive purposes. For example, anchoring demonstrates and uses this one-trial learning capability for therapeutic purposes.
When a person has more number of choices available, the experience of the person can become whole. People with a strong rapport have more number of choices available to them, and therefore feel comfortable with each other. We can introduce more choices in our life, to make it more fuller and happier.
We often criticize others for making a certain choice. This criticism is based on our model of the world and not theirs. With this Neuro-linguistic presupposition, we can realize that a person had made a certain choice depending on his model of the world. This choice was the best choice as per their world. On realizing this, we can then strive to understand their model of the world, and help to change the negative attributes.
We can control our behavior and responses by controlling our mind. We must not act or behave as if our brain is not operational. We are capable of controlling the mind and achieving great heights, by altering our internal representation and map of the world.
Our internal system of beliefs and values drives the NLP model, which uses a presuppositions reality frame for determining human behavior and mind-body functioning. NLP believes in hands on practice rather than theoretical proofs, and comprises of a transformational and experiential model for achieving excellence.
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