How To Converse
Everything as they start at small beginnings, from a child to a full grown adult, from a baby animal to a huge mammal, from a small shop to a world renowned corporation, In the same way, conversation starts from a smile and a small talk.
However in the process of making a worthwhile conversation, small talks gets regarded as a little “ghosts”. It has been feared by many for reasons that speakers may deem illogical. Just to give the fearful ones a sign of motivation, conversations need not be lengthy to the point that you tend to impress rather than express.
When I spoke, I was listened to; and I was at a loss to know how I had so easily acquired the art of commanding attention, and giving the tone to the conversation. - Adelbert von Chamisso
Speeches have been a vital means of interaction among us. Each time that a person opens his mouth a disclosure regarding that person’s identity and character takes place. It happens in a bizarre way that a person’ volatile self is captured, not just by the mere words that the person uttered but also through the manner in which the words were uttered. So if you don’t want to make bad impressions better make yourself through your speech lucid and honest. It’s just a matter of making others pay attention to you without making unnecessary sound, interrupting or talking over others. Be aware of the power of words, you can express how you think and feel but better make sure that you don’t trample on other person’s emotions. You must always remember to be sensitive towards others feelings and emotions.
As to what a quote suggests, “The real art of conversation is not only saying the right thing at a good event, but it also means not saying something at the most tempting moment.” Even though conversations are often believed to gain the reverie of an art, needless to say the human evolution entailed everyone to learn if not master the skill of conversing.
Yin and Yang of conversations
Perhaps the utmost factor when starting a conversation is sincerity. For if it is maintained honesty, prudence and respect follows through.
It would be most effective if you would look into the eye of the one you are talking to, just by doing this you could assure them that you are listening and interested onto what they are saying.
Listening goes hand in hand with speaking, it’s much like when you are speaking at the front of the crowd you of course would want them to listen. Imagine if you were to switch places. It’s more of an ethical factor and a sign of respect that you are listening to whoever was speaking. Naturally, people love to talk about themselves in the same way as you are, and so you better be fair to everyone and to yourself as well. Ask their interests since it would instigate a good conversation because eventually you would be led to share your inclination.
Be polite, it has been taught since preschool but everybody tends to forget one of the golden rules. Being Polite can be done initially in a very simple way, by introducing yourself properly and not arrogantly. While at the flow of conversation, it is recommended that you mention from time to time the name of the person you’re talking with. In the event that you disagree to a certain topic, it is fine as long as you disagree politely.
Next would be consistency. Stick to the topic, don’t beat around the bush and jump from one topic to another because more often than not it creates a cloud of confusion to the one you’re talking with.
Commendations with regard to what others say should be explicitly stated particularly if it is deserved.
It may be unjust to say that starting a conversation is easy but really it is, just have a good and positive tone and say the magic words. Then if you have mastered the above skills you are no longer classified among the ones freaked by conversations and small talks.