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Expressing Thoughts and Feelings Effectively

By Exforsys | on May 22, 2011 |
People Skills

The ability to deliver thoughts and feelings towards other people effectively is an important aspect of communicate. However, it seems that verbal expression of ideas and displays of emotions do not come easy to many people.

Verbal expression of ideas involves putting ideas into words. In most cases, you need to verbally communicate your train of thoughts for you to be understood by your listeners. In the articulation of your thoughts, many factors are considered to convey the message effectively. These elements will be further discussed in the course of this article.

Your thinking pattern and feelings are well-coordinated which means that whatever you think always tend to manifest through your emotions. Along with good articulation of ideas, proper display of emotions is also needed.

Not everyone is gifted with the ability to effectively express thoughts and feelings. You could have encountered people who get tongue-tied when asked about their opinions, some are comfortable with silence, and while others struggle to release their inner emotions. This is actually considered a barrier in communication, so it must be resolved within the person in order to start building good people skills.

Communicate Clearly and Openly

Misunderstandings and misinterpretations are often rooted from lack of clear and open communication. If you would rather opt to stay silent instead of spitting out whatever you wish to say to a person, do not be surprised if quarrels and constant fights happen. You cannot expect the person to just read your mind while you keep things to yourself. So, here are a few tips on how to communicate clearly and openly:

  • Do not hesitate to open up and talk. You will never learn to express your thoughts if you allow fear of talking or speaking to overpower you.
  • Learn from the people around you who are confident and comfortable enough in expressing what they think and feel.
  • Avoid being vague in your statements. If you wish to be understood easily, use simple and direct statements.
  • Tell the person what you feel as of the moment. If the conversation relies heavily on emotions, communicate as well your feelings so that you will be better understood.

Channel Your Emotions Well

It is hard to fake emotions and let it contradict what the mind perceives. For example, if you are thinking of a bad situation such as the loss of something or someone, your emotions follow suit. Heavy feelings dominate the emotions in relation to the current state of mind.

For you to be able to properly express your feelings, manifest what is genuinely felt. This way, the other person will know how to deal with you and misinterpretations of feelings can be avoided as well.

You must have heard of a displaced emotion such as displaced anger. It simply means the kind of emotion that is not suitable for the situation or the circumstance, which becomes the reason why people refrain from talking to you. Always remember to be true to what you feel and let it surface.

Be Direct and Straight to the Point

One problem with some individuals in expressing their thoughts is indirectness in getting the message across. They tend to beat around the bush and mention unnecessary details before spilling out the main point. Doing so would make you ineffective in delivering your thoughts and feelings. How do manage to cut the chase and go straight to the bull’s eye?

  • Get the main idea of what you wish to convey. Express it first and then support it with explanation. If there is a need to reason out, go ahead and supply the reason for choosing your point.
  • Convey the right tone for the conversation. This makes it easy to express the meaning of what you are saying.
  • Keep it simple, but not overly simple. They say that the more you talk, the more mistakes you get. However, simply giving a one or two-liner statement will possibly leave your listener hanging and leave the person confused about your intentions.
  • Make it a point to ask if your listener understood, to check comprehension and active listening. Never assume that the other party fully understands you.
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